Before I delve into my plans for 2012, I thought it might be a nice idea to reflect a bit further on t
he year that was 2011.
Here then, are five random things I learned over the past twelve months.
1) Today is just a stepping stone to better things
My partner Stacy told me this when I was going through a particularly stressful period early last Autumn and it’s undoubtedly the most important thing I learned last year.
I now recite this little mantra to myself every morning and again whenever I’m feeling particularly overwhelmed by something.
Whenever I do, I’m reminded to
appreciate the small things I achieve each day, and to keep checking that those achievements are helping me work towards my bigger overall goals.
What this has also taught me is that when something bad happens in my day I just need to let it go; today is just a stepping stone to better things and tomorrow won’t be that bad.
A very worthwhile lesson if you ask me.
2) Nobody cares about my goals as much as I do.
I don’t mean this in some kind of '
poor me, nobody cares' kind of way, nor do I mean to imply that I’m so self-centred that I all I care about is myself and what I’m trying to achieve.
Rather, I mean to say that everybody has their own goals, their own ambitions, and even those who do care about what I’m doing don’t care as much about their own stuff.
I learned this after a couple of people let me down in a big way on a couple of projects last year.
In the past, I would have been absolutely furious:
“How can you let me down!?! How?? Don’t you realise this is the most important thing EVER!?! You should be willing to give your right arm to work on this!!”
This year I learned not to get so worked up about these things.
Most of these people had perfectly valid reasons why they couldn’t do whatever it is they said they’d do and of course they didn’t realise these projects were the most important thing ever, because they weren’t.
At least not to anyone who wasn’t me.
That’s not a bad thing;
it’s only natural that I should care more about my goals than anyone else in much the same way that those people who let me down care about their stuff much more than I do.
Working together to achieve common goals is still important, but honestly, if somebody can’t help you, it’s important to be grateful that they at least tried to help, and not angrily suggest they amputate a limb.
3) The journey isn’t so scary when your destination promises something amazing.
I’m not a particularly religious person but for years, whenever I boarded a flight anywhere, I would bow my head and pray to whatever almighty power might be up there that if He would just
pretty pretty please let this plane land with me still alive, I’ll do whatever You want.
I don’t quite know where this fear of flying came from, nor did I have too much time to worry about it; I was too busy being
scared half to death from the moment we took off til the moment we landed.
So you can imagine how terrified I might have been last summer when I had to fly on my own for the first time. Not only that, but I had three flights to catch to reach my destination.
Strangely however, almost as soon as that first flight left Manchester to soar across the ocean towards Newark Liberty Airport, I felt relaxed, happy, and far from being scared out of my mind, I found
I was actually really enjoying the experience of being in the air.
Just as I didn’t know where my initial fear had come from, I wasn’t immediately sure why I’d suddenly overcome it.
Then I remembered where I was going; Minnesota, USA,
to spend time with Stacy and her family, to do cool stuff, to visit Bob Dylan’s childhood home!
I couldn’t wait to get there, this was exciting!
Knowing I was about to have a wonderful experience
once I landed; the actual flying part didn’t seem so bad at all.
4) When tired, take nap.
Most of the time I love what I do, so much so that for years I would never see any reason to stop doing it and would soldier on all through the day and well into the night.
Rest and relaxation was one of those things people did when they had nothing better to do and I certainly wasn’t one of those people; I had plenty to do.
What’s more, if it didn’t get done I would grow tired and stressed and generally quite irritated.
I didn’t need a doctor to tell me that this wasn’t a good thing. I could feel how bad it was, so I did the only thing I could:
I chilled out.
I learned to take regular breaks, to put work on the backburner for a while to watch a good film, visit friends or, when I really needed to; take a nap.
More importantly than that though,
I learned not to feel guilty about taking a break.
I learned that
relaxing was just as important to achieving things as working hard. Now I actually look forward to downing tools and doing something just because it’s fun, and woe betide anybody who gets in the way of that wonderful thing I have come to love and value so dearly; The Sunday Afternoon Nap.
5) I’m not a fan of The Rolling Stones (or Bob Marley)
Some time in mid-2011, I set myself a challenge to listen to 100 albums that were considered to be ‘classic’ ‘influential’ or in some way or another important to the history of popular music.
I did this partly because I figured it would just be a fun thing to do, but partly because there were some artists I really didn’t know as much about as I really should, like the ‘Stones for example.
I took a few weeks at a time to really get to know an album, which is why I’m currently only at Album 21 on my list (
With The Beatles, by The Beatles, if you’re curious), but going through this list last year I learned, amongst other things, that:
- For all the praise and critical acclaim they get, The Rolling Stones really were not that great.
- Bob Marley’s Exodus album is, according to my notes, “Bland background music”
- Jarvis Cocker on Pulp’s A Different Class album sounds far more creepy than I ever imagined.
- Let Me In by R.E.M is one of the greatest songs I’ve ever heard.
Thanks for reading and have a great 2012.